Shame can be a verb : you can shame someone, - you can impose shame on someone and someone can feel shamed. It is unfortunately a growing strategy of people who feel they have been wronged. Shame comes from (the internalized judgment of) the outside.
You cannot remorse anyone. Remorse comes from inside
As a student of shame, guilt, and remorse working with folks who dare to contend with such matters at their core, I deeply appreciate how you frame and elaborate on the context here.
Shame has always seemed to me to be a toxic spell driving the narcissism and self-obsessed soup of society we are all swimming and being cooked in...
Remorse has been a spell breaking medicine for me... only found through honest and relational appraisals and through repair, restorative practices and grieving together...
Thank you for making it make even more sense in the historical and social context we find ourselves in, Tad.
I find oddly soothing the image of the punk being wrapped up in a blanket by an elder.
Your fierce compassion burns like a flame through this piece Tad
“Remorse is where we learn hard things about ourselves and life. Shame is what guarantees those learnings never happen.”
i like that line too.
Two radically different movements.
Shame comes from the outside in.
Remorse comes goes from the inside out.
Shame can be a verb : you can shame someone, - you can impose shame on someone and someone can feel shamed. It is unfortunately a growing strategy of people who feel they have been wronged. Shame comes from (the internalized judgment of) the outside.
You cannot remorse anyone. Remorse comes from inside
"You cannot remorse anyone" - profound. Thank you for this.
As a student of shame, guilt, and remorse working with folks who dare to contend with such matters at their core, I deeply appreciate how you frame and elaborate on the context here.
Shame has always seemed to me to be a toxic spell driving the narcissism and self-obsessed soup of society we are all swimming and being cooked in...
Remorse has been a spell breaking medicine for me... only found through honest and relational appraisals and through repair, restorative practices and grieving together...
Thank you for making it make even more sense in the historical and social context we find ourselves in, Tad.